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It's amazing that our military struggles to meet recruitment quotas when we have so many maga males imagining themselves as fonts of testosterone with true Viking warrior impulses and skills. They're the ones who want a total disinhibition of the things their parents, Sunday School, catechism nuns, high school coaches and principals tried to teach them, and they're confident they found it in the churlish, narcissistic knucklehead, the icon of their he-man woman-hater juvenile clubhouse in a cave.

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It's not surprising at all really, the flip side of a bully is a coward.

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True that bullies are the poorest excuses for men. Chump most of all. Muskrat as well. I have known a couple of Asperger’s types, at different points on the spectrum. One was pretty realistic regarding his strengths and weaknesses, as were his parents. One was a total fool and had the poorest judgment of any man I knew. His parents were the same and had unrealistic views and pathetic judgment. both were smart men. Even though social judgment problems are common in this condition, I feel that some of the problems can be attributed to parents who don’t accept or try to overcompensate for the problems and challenges that the condition presents. I feel that Muskrat has a narcissistic personality disorder, totally separate from the Asperger’s syndrome.

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As an Aspergian, let me assure you that Elmo Leon Muck is very definitely NOT an Aspergian. He's just a fuckwitted asshole - they're very common among the neurotypicals.

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Although I don’t know his med history, nor do we know chumps, I couldn’t agree more. The most negative when both had potential to be the most positive. Best examples of the worst of humanity.

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And you gotta love the Christian Nationalists who want to tell fucking everyone how to live.

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Self-righteousness breeds some real inhumane impulses.

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I went to head to head with some people this morning who derided me for posting a direct sentence or two browed from someone on Threads. Women want healthcare; men want cheaper bacon.

I'm going to post this as well.

As a white woman married to a white male with white sons in law, we all know exactly who's voting (in the aggregate) for Donald Trump.

Thanks for the column.

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Sadly, I think you nailed it regarding priorities.

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In the 1970s and '80s I often tried to explain to men that women wanted to be able to walk home from the bus stop without having to cross the street or duck into someone else's doorway if we heard footsteps behind us.

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As Margaret Atwood said, “Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.”

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I have never forgotten that. It was so true, and in many places it still is.

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Pulled quote: "As a white male, I have never been able to figure pout why the default position of the average white American male is Fucking Moron."

Tom, all I got is a pathological lack of self-awareness combined with white male privilege.

Second pulled quote: "I have found that listening to the women I know nearly always improves whatever I am doing or want to do."

I agree with you (and Tim Walz, by the way) on that.

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Those are good points - pathological lack of self-awareness + white male privilege = Fucking Moron .

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Preach, brother Tom! And thank all the goddesses that there are white men out there like you, and like my husband.

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Thanks for posting this. As the only white person in my family of choice, I figured out white guys long ago. I keep my distance until convinced they aren't going to hurt me or my family.

There are good white guys out there. Just not enough.

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Teaching school for decades taught me about the natural superiority of women. The men who are Trump cultists are a bunch of losers.

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Thanks, Tom for sharing this article with us. D. Earl Stephens makes a point, but SOME not ALL white men are voting for trumpscum. Some black men, some latino men and even some military men are also voting for trumpscum. My take - these relatively few men are opposed to thinking, If they can't feel it in their gut, it doesn't exist. So appealing to common sense (requires thinking) appealing to them to think of the effect on the women in their life - also requires thinking.

The people we need to appeal to are the folks who also don't like thinking, but are not overrun by emotion - these are the ones for whom voting is such "an exhausting drain on their time. Get off your lazy duffs dammit and fill out the damned ballot or VOTE in person. Just do it.

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Thank you for sharing D. Earl Stephens' post! I checked out a few of his other posts, and promptly subscribed... white-maleness notwithstanding. :D

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White males who subscribe to TAFM are by definition NOT "fucking morons." :-)

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"who makes the iron-clad case American’s caste system is behind our nation’s terrible inequities." That's not too hard a case to make, all it takes is reading a couple of middling honest history books.

Earl's piece was really good, but would be better if he didn't pull his punches so often.

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Bravo!

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Well, I guess if hectoring didn't work................

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