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Feb 20, 2023·edited Feb 20, 2023Liked by TCinLA

Tom, for you, for you today and tomorrow.

for Jurate,

It is like being on a forgotten hillside when the rain swishes

low to the call of buttercups

Talk is far off, and empty deeds flung to the wind ___

It is like being upheld in a great silence.

___Loureine Aber

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Thanks, Fern

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🌿

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Feb 20, 2023Liked by TCinLA

Thank you for sharing the departure of your lovely Jurate. Peace be with you both. And may the happiest of your memories together overtake the sadness of your loss.

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May every good memory be a comfort to you. My condolences to you and all who mourn her passing. 💔💔💔

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May all your good memories not only sustain you, but bring an occasional smile to you as you move through this. My deepest condolences to you.

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It’s hard to heart it. 😔 So I’ll heart you instead. ❤️

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One would think you would feel blessed relief that her suffering is over, but raw emotion lacks logic

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I do feel that, it's what I'm concentrating on.

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So well said. There is no logic to grief.

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Feb 20, 2023Liked by TCinLA

I watched the sun set tonight in front of the largest single rock on earth - Ayer’s Rock in Uluru-Kata Tjuta National Park in the vast desert known as the Australian Outback. A quiet, majestic and deeply spiritual setting from which to read your profoundly sad news and send you whatever comfort is possible in this moment. 💔 Please stay in touch.

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That sounds nice, thanks.

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I love your photograph of Jurate... I can hear her say 'here's looking at you kid...!'

You've got a wonderful Guardian Angel Tom❤️

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Feb 20, 2023Liked by TCinLA

Please take as much time off as you need. Please take care of yourself.

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Staying connected to the world is going to be important for me, so not that long.

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That is the best healing and so respectful of good-bye. And hello. 💜🗽

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Going back to work after my husband passed kept me sane. When you can, let others help. May you remember the good memories.

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That's exactly my plan. fortunately, I have The Terror Of The Deadline Next Month to keep me going.

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Good. It was like that for me when my husband passed away too. She's in your heart always.

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Condolences, Tom, when my husband died (quick not much suffering) I was so glad I had a full-time job. Also, even if you are feeling some relief, I found that the death of my partner threw me into a whole different world, unlike any others close to me. Happy you have a kitty or so and a community here that can be of some support. The memories are invaluable. RIP Jurate ❤️

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This community is a godsend. I thank each of you from the bottom of my heart for being here.

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not any more than we thank you, on pretty much a daily basis.

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that's exactly right.

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The grief of losing a loved one: the need to walk, to remember, to heal when you cannot heal; to remember what you do not wish to remember. The unconscious call for invisible help, and the not knowing consciously, how, in any way, to ask for it; the way everything refuses to console until we are ready for that consolation. The way winter turns to spring.

-David White

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Jurate is with God; God be with you TC. The ship from the Grey Havens didn't sail to death, but to a blessed Life.

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Please rest. You’ve been through one of the biggest roller coasters of your life, and it was with grace and love. May the good memories flood in now, and help you during this period of feeling the loss of Jurate.

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Oh TC, I am sorry for your loss but relieved that Jurate is finally out of her suffering. It has been a privilege for us to share this part of your life journey with a beautiful, smart woman. Just know that this little community here surrounds you with love and care and will stay connected with you in any way that you find life-giving. Peace for Jurate. May her strong spirit stay alive. May her memory be a blessing!

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She'll wait for you in the clearing at the end of the path.❤

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At the other side of the Rainbow Bridge - her and all her kitties.

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Feb 20, 2023Liked by TCinLA

My heart goes out to you. Thank you, and Jurate, for allowing us on this journey.

There’s that peaceful smile…🤍

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My condolences, Tom.

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