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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

Tom, for you, for you today and tomorrow.

for Jurate,

It is like being on a forgotten hillside when the rain swishes

low to the call of buttercups

Talk is far off, and empty deeds flung to the wind ___

It is like being upheld in a great silence.

___Loureine Aber

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TCinLA's avatar

Thanks, Fern

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FERN MCBRIDE (NYC)'s avatar

🌿

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Ada's avatar

Thank you for sharing the departure of your lovely Jurate. Peace be with you both. And may the happiest of your memories together overtake the sadness of your loss.

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Nancy Ellen's avatar

May every good memory be a comfort to you. My condolences to you and all who mourn her passing. 💔💔💔

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Alexander Moss (VA)'s avatar

May all your good memories not only sustain you, but bring an occasional smile to you as you move through this. My deepest condolences to you.

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Donna Burrell (LI, NY)'s avatar

It’s hard to heart it. 😔 So I’ll heart you instead. ❤️

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JDinTX's avatar

One would think you would feel blessed relief that her suffering is over, but raw emotion lacks logic

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TCinLA's avatar

I do feel that, it's what I'm concentrating on.

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Ally House (Oregon)'s avatar

So well said. There is no logic to grief.

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gildedtwig's avatar

I watched the sun set tonight in front of the largest single rock on earth - Ayer’s Rock in Uluru-Kata Tjuta National Park in the vast desert known as the Australian Outback. A quiet, majestic and deeply spiritual setting from which to read your profoundly sad news and send you whatever comfort is possible in this moment. 💔 Please stay in touch.

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TCinLA's avatar

That sounds nice, thanks.

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Cynthia O'Connor's avatar

I love your photograph of Jurate... I can hear her say 'here's looking at you kid...!'

You've got a wonderful Guardian Angel Tom❤️

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Sharon B in ATL's avatar

The grief of losing a loved one: the need to walk, to remember, to heal when you cannot heal; to remember what you do not wish to remember. The unconscious call for invisible help, and the not knowing consciously, how, in any way, to ask for it; the way everything refuses to console until we are ready for that consolation. The way winter turns to spring.

-David White

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Dave Conant - MO's avatar

Jurate is with God; God be with you TC. The ship from the Grey Havens didn't sail to death, but to a blessed Life.

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Midge Heiser's avatar

Please rest. You’ve been through one of the biggest roller coasters of your life, and it was with grace and love. May the good memories flood in now, and help you during this period of feeling the loss of Jurate.

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Carol Stanton (FL)'s avatar

Oh TC, I am sorry for your loss but relieved that Jurate is finally out of her suffering. It has been a privilege for us to share this part of your life journey with a beautiful, smart woman. Just know that this little community here surrounds you with love and care and will stay connected with you in any way that you find life-giving. Peace for Jurate. May her strong spirit stay alive. May her memory be a blessing!

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Victoria Brown's avatar

She'll wait for you in the clearing at the end of the path.❤

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TCinLA's avatar

At the other side of the Rainbow Bridge - her and all her kitties.

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Kathy's avatar

My heart goes out to you. Thank you, and Jurate, for allowing us on this journey.

There’s that peaceful smile…🤍

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wlipman@comcast.net's avatar

My condolences, Tom.

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MaryB of Pasadena's avatar

I'll lift a brew in her memory. Your writing about her has shared her beautiful spirit with all of us. I'm sure I'm not alone in feeling like I knew her. Love to you, Tom.

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